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» phillipsmom - troubled teenage son

He's 14, done community service twice, been on probation for 6 months, and I just don't think he knows what he does is wrong, or doesn't care. Yes, he is spoiled, the youngest of 3(the other 2 are grown), but he is wearing me down. Is there any body or place out there that can help me without costing me an arm and a leg?

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» lost_hope - troubled teenage son

In response to troubled teenage son posted by phillipsmom:

Im in the same boat. Though she is 17 and the baby and HONESTLY doesnt care what she does wrong, and let alone hurts.
She is my step daughter of 9 years.
And guess what?....she is daddys little girl.
Looks like Im getting a seperation, due to the fact that I am tired and burnt out of bending over backwards.
Seems like the stupid Government has tighted us parents so hard, that we can not seem to disipline (sp) our children at all.
I am at my wits end also.
I wish I could help, though your not alone.

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» phillipsmom - troubled teenage son

In response to troubled teenage son posted by lost_hope:

Thanks for your reply. I guess I'm going to, as they say, fight fire with fire, as much as I love my son, I don't think he takes his actions seriously. He bought himself a cell phone, which at 14 I think there to irresponsible to have, then decided to h elp himself to my debit card. I went through all the channels, cancelled my card, called his probation officer, and bottom line is I have to be the one to press the charges.I've got the weekend to try to make him see where his future lies, come Tuesday I'm going to haul him to the probation office, and see what happens. I hope this just doesn't ruin his life, but I don't know what else to do.

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» phillipsmom - troubled teenage son

In response to troubled teenage son posted by lost_hope:

I'm sorry to hear about your separation, my husband is a good man and we try not to let our kids get into our marriage, he has 2 girls from his first marriage, they live with there mom, and then I have my 3. His do there fair share to cause problems when there here, but normally it doesn't work. His youngest is my nightmare, 11 years old and acts like a 2 year old the minute her dad walks in, but we try to have the same rules for all the kids, you don't like it you go back to the other parent until you respect the rules of the house. So far it works, but alot of years yet to come

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» lost_hope - troubled teenage son

In response to troubled teenage son posted by phillipsmom:

She ran away from home this past friday, after 3 days of stressing out and playing the blame game (hubby & me) we found out she decided to go live with "mommy"
Um, not a good choice but better then the streets.
Honestly, I think my husband is not happy about the situation, though you can see the stress slowly fall off of him.
SHE ISNT allowed to return to our home.
Im hoping that our marriage will be better, and I think it will. In fact, last night was the first night in almost a year, we cuddled on the couch and watched t.v.
update you all later

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» Andrea563 - troubled teenage son

In response to troubled teenage son posted by phillipsmom:

Well, I'm not sure where you and your son are from, but I live in a semi-small town outside of Tulsa, Oklahoma and there is a place here called Thunderbird Youth Academy. This is a start, what I mean by that is, I am a social service worker for the Cherokee Nation and I have heard many good things about their program. Their contact number is 918-824-4850. This is a full-time school for "misguided youth" I guess you would say. Kids that start here usually have parents who are feeling a lot like you, hopeless and have nowhere left to turn. You may not live anywhere near Pryor, Oklahoma but you could at least give them a call and find out if they could recommend anything else. Oh, and I'm pretty sure there is no fee or admission either. The teen has to be in trouble with the law and such. Hope this helps, or didn't get to you too late.

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